I wanted to write this post because I recently realized how a lot of the things I see as problematic have become normal to a lot of people. A lot of this stuff has become a part of a culture that hampers us from seeing the reality of our world. Let me know if you agree with any of these or leave some of your “everyday experiences” in the comments!
the culture. These individually, seem small. Although, when you add it together, you can see how seemingly normal exchanges are actually a part of a problematic culture. We have normalized things like catcalling and sexualized images of women in commercials.
people not listening to you. I cannot tell you how many times this has happened to me. Taking the time and effort to say something and then having your thoughts completely disregarded as if they were nothing. Being ignored or disrespected.
having to listen to mansplaining. On the flip side, even though we endure that behavior, we tell ourselves we have to listen/ humor mansplaining it orders to get anywhere in a conversation.
catcalls. I think catcalls have become something that we shrug off as something that will just happen and something we are supposed to accept. It’s not even surprising anymore to get whistled or yelled at. Despite the normality of this, catcalling is never appropriate. It will never be objectifying, demeaning or plain out rude.
dress code. At this point, I sound like a broken record. Let’s get this out of the way – click here to read my post on school dress code. We’ve accepted the fact that our shorts and skirts will always be too short. They will always be distracting. They will never be acceptable, even though the real issue they have is us, our bodies.
“honey” and “darling”. Sometimes, there’s nothing wrong with someone calling you honey or darling. That being said, when it gets to the point where you are uncomfortable it’s not good. One time an old guy, a stranger, repeatedly called me honey and I felt so uncomfortable and out of place. Which is so crazy because I didn’t do anything. He probably just got used to saying stuff like that because it’s so widely normalized and no one speaks up to voice their opinion.
I hope this post shined a light onto the parts of society that have become normalized today. Let me know if you agree with any of these or leave some of your “everyday experiences” in the comments! Also, I am sorry that I haven’t been including images in the same way I used to. With school, it’s been hard to take pictures when it’s still light out, and I have more than enough time to write- but photos are difficult. Thanks!
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